"How do they do it?"
Comparing ourselves to others is a natural human tendency, driven by our desire for acceptance, significance, and belonging. However, this can be a double-edged sword.
While it can occasionally spark inspiration, it often leads to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and fear, especially in areas like finances, parenting, and professional success.
The pursuit of an idealized "perfect" often leads us to overlook the simple joys that already exist in our lives.
Social media, with its carefully curated highlights, can exacerbate this tendency, creating imaginary gaps in our lives. Making us feel like we're constantly playing catch-up.
In fact, comparison has become a significant contributor to financial anxiety.
One in three people feels financially behind compared to their peers.
An exhausting mental load that breeds resentment, jealousy, anxiety and desperation – toxic for the mind and often, the wallet.
Instead of focusing on comparing ourselves to others, we can redirect our attention towards our future selves.
Imagine your life next year? What does fulfillment mean to you? What relationships, lifestyle, possessions, and experiences would bring you joy?
By creating a clearer vision of the future we want, we can see the specific changes we need to make.
Make a list of the things you don't want in your life twelve months from now.
Then, articulate what you want instead. Less spending, lower credit card debt, more savings – what actionable steps can you take to achieve these goals?
Chances are, there are people already living the lives you aspire to.
Success often leaves clues, and we naturally gravitate towards those who embody our aspirations.
Seek out these individuals. Engage in meaningful conversations. Learn from their experiences. Ask them about their challenges, their strategies, and their insights.
Explore - how could this benefit you?
Let go of the unrealistic expectations.
By shifting our focus from comparison and desperation to inspiration, we can turn those imaginary gaps into bridges to a more fulfilling future.
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