DAY 10 – The Blindspots We Avoid and What We’re Really Protecting

12 Days of Money, Mind and Meaning

There is a quiet tension many of us carry when it comes to money.

We are good at planning for growth.

We think about goals, improvements, and what we want more of.

We focus on moving forward.

But we often avoid planning for loss.

Not because we are irresponsible or careless.

But because it asks us to sit with vulnerability.

Taking deliberate action to put protection in place brings us face to face with questions we would rather keep at a distance.

What would I struggle to replace if it disappeared tomorrow?

Who would be affected if my circumstances changed suddenly?

What would happen if I could not earn, work, or make decisions in the same way?

What parts of my life rely on me being “fine” all the time?

These questions reveal blindspots.

And blindspots, left unexamined, quietly turn into risk.

Many people mistake avoidance for optimism.

They tell themselves they are staying positive, not worrying, not overthinking.

But often, avoidance is fear trying to protect us from discomfort.

The problem is that unacknowledged fear does not disappear.

It simply shows up as anxiety.

When protection is missing, the nervous system stays alert.

There is a constant low-level sense of “what if”.

This tension can affect sleep, confidence, decision-making and emotional wellbeing.

Protection, when approached gently, does the opposite.

It brings relief.

Protection is not about expecting something bad to happen.

It is about recognising what matters enough to care for intentionally.

This might include:

your income

your health

your ability to earn

your independence

your family or loved ones

your capacity to make decisions

your future self

Putting protection in place is an act of respect for the life you have built.

It is a way of saying, 'This matters, and I want to take care of it.

The most important thing to remember is this:

You do not need to address everything at once.

Awareness comes first.

Today’s reflection

What is one thing in your life that would feel destabilising to lose?

Name it without judgement.

Today’s small step

Choose one area where you feel exposed rather than supported.

That might be income, health, paperwork, decision-making, or something else entirely.

Ask one question.

Check one document.

Start one conversation.

Protection begins with noticing the blindspot, not fixing it perfectly.

As this 12-day journey continues, let this awareness guide you gently.

Because real resilience is built not just on growth, but on care.

Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is look at what we are afraid to lose and choose to protect it anyway.

If you want to explore the emotional side of money, risk and resilience further, listen to the HealthyHer Money Mind podcast, now available on all major platforms.